Protestant views on interracial dating
I had previously been married to an African American Woman who found it her place in life to always remind me that I would "be better suited for a white woman," because I did not talk or act black.
That feeling is betrayed." While Scott ultimately points out that she's not trying to hurt anyone with her thoughts, but is just expressing her opinion on the matter (she ends the piece with "I'm just sayin."), commenters at Essence have already taken sides, with some supporting Scott's opinion and others berating her for her words: This to me is bullshit. I can admit that I prefer not to see black men with white women, whether they are successful or not.I am a black woman who could care less about who or what a black man chooses for a wife. It would be hypocritical of me to have that "wince" that Scott was talking about. It's because I am open to dating and marrying interracially. As black women, we have had to endure criticism and swallow to much of our pride in comparison to white women.Yes slavery happened and lets not forget it, but the whites that I choose to surround myself with should not be put in the same category as their forefathers who raped our ancestors. There are other issues that are more important to talk about than this one, especially in the black community....sorry. I have seen some handsome white men, but there is nothing better than that sexy black men :)— attitude, strength, and personality.Jill's comments mirror what a lot of black women feel; sorry if it makes some of you uncomfortable. I have non-black girlfriends who date black men—some exclusively—and you know what? Furthermore, I think black men should consider some of the things Jill Scott mentioned; all that black women have been through, makes it easier for us to relate and understand each other— a feeling I believe the white woman will never experience.Jill Scott has stirred up a debate between Essence readers after discussing her views on interracial dating with the magazine, stating that she "felt a little wince" when her African-American friend told her he had married a white woman.In a post titled "Commentary: Jill Scott Talks Interracial Dating," Scott explains that she believes the "wince" she felt does not come from her personal upbringing, but rather from the notion "that for women of color, this very common "wince" has solely to do with the African story in America," and the historical implications behind interracial relationships.
"When our people were enslaved, 'Massa' placed his Caucasian woman on a pedestal," Scott says, "She was spoiled, revered and angelic, while the Black slave woman was overworked, beaten, raped and farmed out like cattle to be mated. Don't assume that just because a black man has a white or Asian woman on his arms that he treats her better than he would a black woman.
She was nothing and neither was our Black man." She goes on to point out that black men were "lynched, beaten, jailed or shot to death" for looking at white women, and discusses the struggles that black men and women faced together, arguing that "these harsh truths lead to what we really feel when we see a seemingly together brother with a Caucasian woman and their children. And most of these guys are the "educated" brothas we THINK are a good catch and resent "losing" them to white girls. Some black men are not going to be decent to ANY woman.
This article though well written is completely out of place.
The thought process is yesterday's excuse for a world that has morphed into something that transcends racial and cultural lines.
The hurts of the past can not continue to cause "winces" except in small minded individuals that choose to hold on to past atrocities as something to carry over to the next generation.
I agree the past was filled and in some instances continues to hold on to some "bad habits." However, As an Afro-Latino married to a White Woman, color had no place in my selection.