Catholicism in dating
(This was written in preparation for a series of conferences on vocations and states in life that I gave at Saint Benedict Center in the Spring of 2005.
He must have a certain education, certain interests, and so forth.Depending on Tom’s budget, it can be anything from a pizza joint to Mc Donald’s to one of those upscale places like Denny’s.After that, they see how much time is left to get Sally back home in time — whatever time that is — and they kill time walking in the park together. In this first plan, Tom and Sally are alone a lot, may sit in the car for long periods at a time, and have no real purpose other than to have fun.There is also a huge number of proximate occasions of mortal sin.I would also like to cover who is eligible to court and what some appropriate parameters are. In order to contrast courtship and dating, let me give examples of each. Tom, who has been legally eligible to drive for about a year now, goes to Sally’s parents’ house.After knocking on the door, he may or may not be allowed in the house to wait for Sally to finish dosing herself with the final spritz of inexpensive yet surprisingly powerful perfume.
As soon as possible, the two get back into Tom’s car and head off to the movie theater where they will watch whatever popular thing is playing nowadays.
After the movie, the two of them go someplace for dinner.
You have to know that he — whoever he is — must be the kind of man you can have a true friendship with, according to the three qualifications we discussed last week. The “proximate” choosing of a partner, has two parts: First is seeing if meets your ideals.
But, in order to know that, there then has to be some sort of test.
Since “test marriages” would be a violation of basic morals — even on the natural level — what we have instead is called courtship. I will not go into detail on many of those things one can read in a book such as Father Lovasik’s , or Father Kelley’s book on chastity I mentioned last week.
Courtship allows you to see if the one you’ve almost chosen is the one you’ll choose for life at the altar. This is a mixed audience and these subjects would be better handled in another venue, preferably in the home, where these books can be read with parents as your guides. What I would like to address is the notion of courtship and how it differs from the modern concept of dating.