Average years of dating before marriage
Because it felt important and timely, I deviated last week from my central topic to write a short piece on deceptive marketing practices affecting untold numbers of returning Veterans with G. In addition to being a highly accomplished group, well-educated people are thoughtful planners and strategists. This week brings a refocus on the central theme of this blog: What are the multiple reasons that well-educated people have better marriages relative to the general population?
Many have delayed receiving their relatively high incomes for several years to pursue graduate degrees.Similarly, the married respondents in my well-educated sample () indicated that they spent an average of 3.6 years dating their husbands before committing to marriage.This is much longer than the 2 year relationship “trial period” suggested by some theorists.These quite happily married women knew what they were looking for and spent considerable time building their relationships before making the decision to partner for life with their husbands.Within the sample was 27.17 and the average age for their husbands was 28.94.I believe it may have ricocheted off my hand, because someone handed me the bouquet (now that I think of it, I realize I was, in fact, the next to get married).
This bouquet toss experience was illuminated when I reviewed responses to the open-ended question “At what age or stage of life do you feel is the optimal time to get married and why?
” Here are some representative answers to this question: • I believe you should not get married before your late 20s at the very earliest.
The average age of marriage across the United States for the same time period was 23.6 for women and 25.8 for men*, so the men and women in this sample were 3 to 3.5 years older on average at the time of marriage.
I suppose the relatively high average age of marriage in the sample would explain a curious personal experience that I once had that has never been repeated at other weddings I’ve attended.
I was attending a close friend’s wedding at the Harvard Club of New York, an elegant “Harvard on Harvard” marriage.
When the bride threw the bouquet, the cluster of single women immediately jumped away from it and the unclaimed bouquet landed on the floor.